mediocrity is not my thing

a white lady who voted for 45 told me i hurt her feelings because i chose to talk to her about her vote. 

a white lady who voted for 45 said that my decision to no longer greet her everyday has “affected her well-being” & started to cry real tears. (🙄)
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a white lady who voted for 45 said that she was not trying to keep any secrets BUT it was her business that she voted for 45 and she didn't want anyone to know. (🤔)
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a white lady who voted for 45 told me that we would just have to agree to disagree and i told her NO we would not.
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i told her that as a black woman i could get more than my feelings hurt because of the political decisions of mediocre white ladies like her.
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i told her that we do not understand each other because she hadn't said anything that made sense, actually she hadn't said anything of substance at all.
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i told her i wouldn't be speaking to her in the future or waving and smiling at her as we drop our children off at school because i am done doing that. politics matter AND they are personal; my very existence as a black woman/mother is political.
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white ladies who voted for 45 and the lot of you “liberal” white ladies who know and love white ladies who did and don't challenge them or call them on their shit ...
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i am not here to convince you of my humanity.
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i am not here to play nice when you are playing with lives and legacies.
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i am not here for your white fragility and your fragile/exclusive versions of feminism.
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i am not here for your denial, your guilt or your racism.
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what i am here for is all of us (even you) getting and being free and i am on that quest with or without you.

stop crying. stop making this about you. stop lying. stop always talking. just stop and for a bit of time listen to, believe and follow black women.
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once you know better, before you leap to the “do better” phase how about you actually BE better! cause honestly if you can't BE better at your core whatever you do will simply continue to cause more harm than good.

verta